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Program Your Success
by Sue Knight
Executives are learning that using all five senses can
help them achieve the results they want, writes Margaret
Coles.
It sounds like a typical Californian concept but it
is being taken seriously in our most down-to-earth industries.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming is claimed to make the
difference between being average and being excellent.
It is an approach to communication and development that
helps people to modify their thinking and behaviour
in order to achieve results they want.
"Neuro" relates to the fact that we experience
the world through our five senses, "linguistic"
refers to the use of language to communicate and "programming"
to the way we organise ideas and actions - terms from
the past - to produce results.
It all begins with understanding how behaviours affects
outcomes and why we act as we do. For example, we can
more readily achieve rapport with other people by observing
from their use of language, which of the five senses
most influences their thinking. People who think visually
will feel more at ease with someone who sees what they
mean and can picture the scenario.
Sue Knight, an NLP business trainer, says that most
of us fail to capitalise on the subtleties of language.
"If you ask someone to do something and they say
they can't, most people would ask: 'Why not?' That invites
the other person to dredge up all the reasons which
makes it even more difficult for them.
"If you ask: 'What would happen if you could do
it?", you're inviting them to think about the possibility
of doing it. It's a very simple change but a very different
question gets very different results. If they genuinely
think about the question they'll start to imagine themselves
doing the thing, and that is a big step towards doing
it."
Knight explains that we run programs, like a computer,
that will always get us a particular result - and not
necessarily the one we want. Once we become aware of
what we are doing, we begin to have choices. "Instead
of blaming other people and feeling frustrated, you
can learn how to manage yourself so as to feel the way
you want to feel.
"Business development is tied to personal development.
You're the only person you can change: you can influence
others only by developing yourself," says Knight.
Paul Kiss, managing director of Abbey Underpinning
and Foundations, ground engineers, did the first actual
NLP courses with Sue Knight 2.5 years ago, because "I've
always been one for trying new things and learning,"
he says. "I thought Sue's supposition that my business
was a reflection of me was rubbish."
"Sue says that example is the best influence so,
after the course, as a little experiment, I went into
our yard, which was a real mess, picked up a cement
bag that was blowing about and put it in the skip. A
few minutes later someone else followed suit, and a
bit later the yard had been cleared. NLP frees up your
thinking. For instance, I now run my business by consultation.
I have weekly one-to-ones with the key managers, and
they do the same with their people. It lets me get a
handle on the business but also builds good relationships.
As a result, people sell more and work better, which
has made the business stronger."
Kiss found the NLP practice of outcome thinking particularly
valuable. "You use all five senses to imagine an
outcome you want, and that lets the unconscious mind
develop the goal and motivates the conscious mind to
try harder and recognise opportunities," he says.
He uses the practice before meetings with "so-called
difficult clients", and it has helped him to develop
a "virtual business plan that includes measurements
of such things as staff and client feedback."
He says: "NLP has transformed the business. We've
become a lot more professional, it's a lot nicer to
work here and I don't work so hard. It's had a big impact
for the better on my life. I'd say this is the ultimate
in personal development."
Brian Chernett, managing director of the Academy for
Chief Executives, a forum for the exchange of views,
uses NLP for training.
"The thing that got me hooked was a technique
called anchoring," says Chernett.
"I used to get nervous before one-to-one meetings,
worrying about how I could deliver added value. I brought
this up on an NLP course and was taught the technique,
which involved thinking of an occasion when a one-to-one
meeting had gone really well and "anchoring"
the memory to touching my left ear lobe. I could then
recapture that happy state by touching it again. It
really worked and now I can do it without touching my
ear and I'm never nervous in meetings."
"NLP makes interviews easier; you can do away
with lots of personality tests because you have better
use of language and listening skills, and a better understanding
of people."
"It has changed my life. I'm far more sensitive
to my wife and family, and to the people I work for
and manage."

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Sue Knight is an international consultant. Her work
consists of writing, one to one coaching, talks and leadership
consultancy. She is author of several books including
NLP at Work, NLP Solutions and Leadership from the Heart
manual of exercises for leaders. You can up to date news
of her work and thoughts on her web page www.SueKnight.co.uk.
Copyright © Sue Knight 2000
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